No Regrets

No Regrets

Living with no regrets — this is the motto my mom lived by when she was a teen. Even at such a young age, she didn't want to regret anything when she was older, especially in the area of relationships with the opposite sex. She didn't want to look back on her teen and young adult years and be filled with guilt or a wish that she had done things differently. It shaped her decisions, her boundaries, who she dated, how she lived.

As my sister and I, her two daughters, reached our teen years, this was a theme we regularly heard from her. But as I look back on my life during that time, I'm sad to say that I do have regrets. And as much as I know I'm forgiven, those regrets still linger in the back of my mind, reminding me of my mistakes.

If you Google the word “regret” you will find a number of websites dedicated to people sharing their biggest regret. The tagline on one reads: “Don't make the same mistakes as others.”

What ensues on these sites is a long list of regrets that people have anonymously posted. Things like letting a girlfriend go through with an abortion, starting smoking, things someone did when they were drunk, losing their virginity…and the list goes on. Some serious, some less so. But all regrets for the individual who posted them.

If only we could look ahead in life and understand the devastating impact of regret.

Proverbs 5:7 in The Message says, “You don't want to end your life full of regrets, nothing but sin and bones, Saying, ‘Oh, why didn't I do what they told me? Why did I reject a disciplined life? Why didn't I listen to my mentors, or take my teachers seriously?’”

Unfortunately, that's the problem with regret. It gets stuck in our heads and goes round and round. We question our decisions, disappointed in ourselves that we didn't do differently. We wonder why we didn't listen to others and take their advice.

So, what's the best way to avoid regret? Live lives that are honouring to God. Make every decision, every action in light of the fact that our bodies, our lives belong to God. Only then can we hope to live lives without regret. Lives that we will be proud to look back on, lives that we can present to God as an offering.


“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God — this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” (Romans 12:1-2 NIV)




About the author:  Tanya Kieneker

Tanya Kieneker