Emphasize love and encouragement, not just rules and consequences. Uphold the dignity of your child. Do so in public and in private. Show the world you delight in your children.
— Charles R. Swindoll
The Distinction between Childishness and Defiance
Childishness comes in a variety of coloring-box hues: unrestrained energy, curiosity, clumsy spilling, distracted forgetfulness, failure-prone fumbling, roller-coaster mood swings, and mud-pie messiness.
Defiance, on the other hand, paints in darker shades: deliberate and stubborn resistance, hateful and selfish bullying, repeated disobedience, sassing, sneakiness, temper tantrums, and a belligerent and demanding attitude.
Loving discipline deals with defance head on. It changes your child’s course from a destructive path of defiant rebellion against all authority, including God, to a path of love for self and others and respect for authority.
Describing loving discipline is simple; doing it is not so easy! Shaping a child’s will without being too permissive or too harsh requires the wisdom of Solomon. Thankfully, in Proverbs we have the wisdom of Solomon! Let’s open its pages to find helpful guidance.